With more and more people openly going to therapy, I think that often people don’t know how to act when someone is talking about it and regularly going.
I get it. You worry about saying the right thing, you’re not sure what to do, so here are some things that have been helpful from the people in my life.
How can you help a loved one going through therapy:
1. Be Supportive. Just telling them that you think it’s great that they’re taking care of themselves is huge. Tell them that you’re there if they need you.
2. Recognize, it’s not personal. I think if it’s your partner going to therapy, your first instinct is to assume you’ve done something wrong and assume the blame. However, if you’re assuming this, chances are, it’s not about you.
3. Have no expectations. I like to say “What happens in therapy, stays in therapy” Often, what people talk about in their sessions are things that they don’t want to discuss out in the world. Give them that space. If they want to talk about it, they will.
4. Be Patient. I’ve been in therapy/counselling/seeing a life coach for 10+ years. My mom has been in it for 30+ years. Both of us still learn new things in each session. It takes time to develop a raport with your therapist. Or testing a few different ones. It’s not a “one and done” type thing. You learn different things from different counsellors. Have patience.
5. Financially. Therapy/counselling/life coach – it’s expensive. A lot of plans don’t cover these services (and if they do, it’s not much). Yes, you can get government support, but you’re often put on a list a year long and not everyone can wait that long. So if you can, offer to help contribute to a session. It will make a world of difference.
Hope this helped.
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