As some of you may know, I took a bit of a “break” from Social Media in December. There were a WHOLE host of reasons but the main reason was how ingrained it had become in my every day life.
It was literally the first thing I checked when I woke up in the morning.
I checked my DMs OBSESSIVELY.
I tried to keep up with everyone and everything.
I kept telling myself it was ok, that lots of people do it, etc. etc.
But then a my husband and good friend helped me to see – it was becoming unhealthy. I was a mess. It had become an addiction.
Let me take a moment to explain how embarrassed I am about that. I know a LOT of people experience this, but man, I did not think I would be one of them.
In any case, I took a BIG step back.
Truthfully, it was the best gift I gave myself. The first couple of days I really saw just how often I reached for my phone (It was A LOT). At first I felt free…and then I felt sad…and then I felt frustrated.
I learned a lot though – here are just a few things that I wanted to share with you:
I barely took any photos. I used to tell myself that I always had my phone nearby because I loved to take photos. The truth? I loved to take photos for the ‘Gram.
I mindlessly reach for my phone. A. LOT. The day after I took off, I got out of the shower and mindlessly opened my phone and went straight for the IG app. It took me a minute before realizing what I was doing. It’s messed up you guys.
I actually have more time than I think. Yes, my schedule is hectic af. But I have plenty of quiet moments too. At first, it was jarring. I felt like I SHOULD be doing something. As often as I could, I tried to sit in that uncomfortable feeling and just be. Or I journaled.
I’m a happier person when I’m not on here all the time. So, despite the IG algorithms, I’m not going to be posting as often. I’m not going to be doing stories all the time. I’m going to be setting boundaries with this space.
How to tell when you need a break too:
- You check your phone, a lot. Even when you’re with friends and family.
- Your mood is dictated by the number of likes/comments/DMs you are getting.
- You’re documenting EVERYTHING you’re doing, to the point of it getting in the way of actually LIVING
- You’re agitated if something is interrupting you from being on your phone.
- You’re constantly comparing yourself to others.
Have you ever taken a break or needed one? Tell me about it below!
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